重要的一步

聖誕節假期，我們都聽老師說讓三小花加 Rachel 都參加了華教協會的華文盃比賽。朗誦的詩是跟以往一樣的兩首:「努力」+「是誰家的孩子」。這次地點不是在旺角或灣仔，而是大學裡的演奏廳，真的踏台板。不過，到了阿囡朗誦時，就發生了小意外。她說朗誦到中段時，突然在台上忘記了內容，嘴巴卡住了一樣，整個人就僵住了，也緊張起來。幸好，她在評判老師的稍微提示下，重新接上朗誦的後半，穩住了自己的情緒。我幸好有來看她，否則真的會不停地問澄媽詳細的表情和細節，接著就捱澄媽的責罵。女兒能夠定住情緒，不在台上爆發情緒，實在已經非常厲害，看著她對自己的不滿，就明白她不容許自己失敗的意慾有多大。這個意慾不能錯看當成是決心，她並沒有把「堅持做好」和「成功」掛上鈎，這全因我和澄媽並沒有一項活動是地嶽式的訓練。

這個事暫時不能說她掌握了什麼自控，不過就是非常獨特的體會，我們可以善用的話，她會在這起點成長。對於家長和老師而言，我們都上了一課，老師處理的態度也十分理想，先穩住了孩子的情緒，帶出了正面的訊息。我們事後也獲得了特別的安排，翌日再到來同一地點，再比賽一次，無意間就是「那裡跌倒，那裡重新站起來」的意義。翌日，她的表演和情緒都非常平穩。女兒啊，女兒啊，就讓你在這些跌跌碰碰中，爸爸媽媽陪妳慢慢成長吧！

謎底解開

早一晚阿囡見到電視新聞訪問聖誕老人村，由於不是兒童台，又看到背景是白朦朦的一片雪地，她便問起這聖誕老人是否真的事情了。我含糊帶過沒有回應，我不想說假扮的，也不想講大話。她便轉了話題，追查我有沒有把她那封寄給聖誕老人的信辦妥了沒有，她期望信件會很快送到他手上，因為我教了她寫空郵的信封，她也心急地補上了一句drive fast。我猜是想對機師說 fly fast 吧。我當然沒有真的寄出去，因為地址是北極聖誕老人工作坊，他是不會收到的，寄去芬蘭的聖誕老人之家也不會有禮物。我於是打算把它收入寶貝收集箱，不過收入之前還是看看女兒想要什麼。一看之下，竟然是要兩三盒指定款式的模擬購物套裝，真是大想頭。她還提供了後備選項，以防聖誕老人沒辦法預備第一份。她又把餐枱下的位置當成了放禮物地點，代替襪子或煙囪。我當然變成了聖誕老人般去替她買禮物，再趁她睡了放好，好讓她起來能有個驚喜！

做什麼？

澄媽剛剛打了電話給我，我和女兒就在她面前出現了。我們並沒有約定，真湊巧！她們說再見前就像樹熊一樣。

Merry Christmas

It is expensive but it is once for a year or once a while, therefore no problem. Pizza expensive?! no, it is the class. She went with Misha ( daughter of Ms Pauline ) to Graceful hand this Xmas. They are good friends that can get along as they are talking in English like native. They spent so much time together weekly on waterChing's Phonic classes and I cherish a lot this kind of good friendship. The school is so close and they played the whole afternoon with games, baking and art craft. I hope they can get together more in the future.

How's my promise

i just back from education centre and it's late as my little girl has fallen asleep. i did not blame myself but still feeling guilty because I promised her that I will bring the jelly home as a dessert. this dessert is not just a gift but a promise of reward. she did clean up toys and rubbish before dinner tonight and when she did both, not either one, there will be a jelly for her. however, due to the long fixing time of wiring at the centre, i failed to fulfill this promise. she is very tired as she woke up at 5:30 this morning. she woke up and went to the toilet. then she tried to pack up her snacks for her Xmas party today as she did not pack yesterday night. She did not want to go to sleep unless I help her to do so. she then slept for one more hour before we set off for Xmas party. In the daytime, you can image she will be exhausted after dancing and playing all day long. she is a kind of her having strong will and persistence. i am not sure i can dig out this beauty of her so that she can have a wonderful life afterwards. she remembers and means so much about what she said to us as well as what we said to her. she is just wonderful and i hope that she will not be upset in her dream waiting for daddy's late jelly.

幸福

有人說睡得是福，我就終於有一晚的幸福，澄媽幫忙跟功課，女兒也獨自上床睡覺，不用講故事。我看過報紙就倒頭大睡，感恩！

讚澄媽

昨晚澄媽飯後跟温習，在飯前已經忙了一會跟功課的她，已經是耐性用盡，加上她也有很多家事要處理，她還是爆發了。於是，又我這個自以為有耐性的來補上。不過，阿囡今天放學後沒有回來睡覺，她又因為課外活動和每星期一天的體育課，看來筋疲力竭，故此能量特低。接著，當她遇上了忘記的中文字，情緒就要爆發了，我來回幾種方法都不能令她放棄尋找答案，她又不相信我的說話，我也快失控發脾氣了，澄媽也遙遠地喊叫著。可惜，這個情況沒有隨時候減輕或停止，我倆也差不多無計可施。突然，澄媽不知道那裡掏出了新一口氣的温柔，重新軟化已經在流眼淚的女兒，認同了她想做對題目的渴望，也把話題一轉到了卡通公仔上。我被澄媽新一輪的耐性攻勢吸引住，看儍了眼，感到大為驚訝。最後女兒都宣洩了情緒，用甜點去了，之乖乖� �睡。過後澄媽也說挑戰了極限，破了記錄。